The Big Turning Point

My friends have been surrounding me with love and care and it is everything I could have asked for and more =)) Thank you guys =))With some tips from friends I've started reading certain self-help books and one in particular is helping me through this rather difficult time, lubricating my path of recovery. It is "if he's not the one, Who is?"

Yes I've broken up from my dream relationship since I was 18. The one that I prayed for for a whole year before I forced myself to give up? Yup. And we lasted only 8 months. True we broke up for a reason but there definitely were good times and I guess like what a friend told me, I "don't hate a person who I've loved" because it's not possible especially when he didn't do me much wrong anyways. I'll keep the memories and they will always be dear to my heart. I know a lot of people out there will be thinking I just can't let go. People, you don't have to wipe out memories to let go. That is just cowardly. What I'm doing is facing my memories and amplifying the good parts and keeping them near to my heart because it is from these memories that I can learn. And I am grateful to the teacher in my memories that will make my future better because of the lessons I was taught =))

People may say I'm heartless to let go so quickly. I say let go quick so you can't wallow in sorrow and anger as these things will easily turn to hate. Accept them, your feelings, and let them go peacefully after you have made peace with yourself.

My friends and family are my back bone. They have also given me wisdom and love. Thanks fellas =))

My current motto is "Cherish yourself because no man is worth you not loving yourself over." I've decided to stop being the aggressive sort of girl whereby I confess first. If I like a guy, I'd probably make it known to him that I'm available and if he can't see that or decides to ignore it then there are plenty of other men out there who are smart enough to take the hint. No more grovelling on the floor. I am a woman and we women must learn to love ourselves first!

Also from what I learnt in the book, I've gathered that I am the rule, not the exception. There are exceptions where exes turn around and come back after changing themselves and the women who wait for their men faithfully are rewarded. But, I am the RULE. It's best to think that anyways haha. So this is another reason to let go =)) and also, for me to be scared that I will find no one else? Yes I was scared, but I also learned that like there was a Mr Wrong, there will be a or many other Mr Nexts until I find Mr Right so as of now, Mel is going to kick back and smell the roses. I'm going to enjoy singlehood until someone worth my time comes up to me =))